When we go by the normal rhythms of a resident, individualizing their care, we support their experience of being at home. When we don’t, we induce agitation and despair, without ever intending to.
We wake people out of a sound sleep in the morning so that we can get them to breakfast at a set time. We shower people on the facility’s schedule, not according to their own routines. We even have people go to the bathroom based on when we’ve determined it’s time for them to go. A woman on her second day living in a nursing home told Carter Williams, “You haven’t lived til you’ve gone to the bathroom on someone else’s schedule.”
While institutional care may seem efficient, it really isn’t. Homes that have individualized their care have found that they actually have more time, and better quality time, with residents. Instead of a rush hour getting everyone up, washed, dressed, and transported to the dining room where they fall back to sleep waiting for their food trays to come, staff at homes that have gone to having people awaken of their own accord, find that they actually have more time to help each resident start their day.